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About the author: Allison Leigh is a pornographer, producer, polyamorist, and professional kinkster. When sexuality is business, business is fun! 

When it comes to infidelity, where does fantasy cross the line?

Sexuality, while an integral part of the human experience, is something that continues to polarize pundits and plain folks alike. With adult entertainment at the forefront of politics across the US and UK right now, opinions are not in short supply. Something that continues to perplex us is where pornography sits in the scope of our marriages and relationships. Is viewing porn cheating, or is the link between erotic materials and romance more complex than that?

A new study released in February of this year sought to answer that question by comparing opinions on pornography with other cultural attitudes in the United States and Spain. In examining the data gathered from University of Florida and the University of Alicante, researchers found that an overwhelming number of participants (73 percent in USA and 77 percent in Spain) believe that viewing erotic materials is not cheating.

In the sample that did find porn use to be infidelity, researchers found strong correlations to their lifestyles, including religiosity, relationship status, and overall attitudes on jealousy and infidelity. A participant from the United States was more likely to view porn as cheating, as was someone who did not use erotic materials themselves, or was single (and therefore perhaps more likely to be idealistically rigid about their attitudes toward relationships). Having low self-esteem was also a factor tied to attitudes on porn and infidelity, but only in participants from the US. Interestingly, there weren’t any gender differences – women were not more likely than men to view porn as cheating.

Church attendance was the strongest predictor of a participant’s attitude toward erotic materials and infidelity. In respondents from the US, being religious predicted the view that porn is cheating, whereas Spanish respondents showed no such effect. About 70 percent of Spaniards identify as Catholics, but only around 9 percent of citizens attend church at least monthly. In contrast, as many as 42 percent of Americans attend church weekly. This suggests that it is attendance of church services, rather than self-identification as religious, that has an impact on one’s views on pornography.

Also worth noting is that Europeans, including Spanish Catholics, tend to be less punitive about sex in general, and also less dogmatic and energized about their religion, compared to many US evangelical churchgoers. These differences may also account for the differentiation between the two countries regarding whether or not low self-esteem played a factor in participants’ opinions on infidelity – it is hardly a stretch to think that those with a pronounced desire to belong to a group may feel more pressure to conform to church ideologies.

So is the answer to avoiding marital strife a detailed survey of your partner’s demographics? Are our cultural attitudes toward porn immutable? Hardly! Studies have shown that porn use adds more positive things to your relationship than negative, including improved sexual communication – if things are properly discussed. Couples have reported that they perceived porn as being linked to more sexual experimentation and sexual comfort in their relationships. Viewing pornography is also tied to higher levels of arousability, which can keep a sexual relationship alive.

As with all things in a partnership, communication is key – talk to your partner about their attitudes to porn and infidelity. While this is a conversation that many avoid due to fear of ensuing conflict, discussing these things early on can allow couples to navigate potential problems before they occur. Odds are that your partner will be amenable to your viewing habits, and honesty is far preferable to introducing secrecy and deception into your relationship, which is more likely to hurt your partner. Instead of undermining trust, use the conversation as an opportunity to promote understanding and develop your sexuality together. Strong relationships are built upon strong communication – something no amount of porn can damage or replace. We hope MetArt will play a role in that communication.

This post first appeared on MyErotica.com

 

REFERENCES:

“Dogmatic and Spiritual Religion.” Psychology Today. Accessed March 26, 2018. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/out-the-darkness/201412/dogmatic-and-spiritual-religion

“Is Watching Pornography a Form of Cheating? It Depends.” Psychology Today. Accessed March 26, 2018. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201802/is-watching-pornography-form-cheating-it-depends

“Why Secrets Can Ruin Relationships.” Psychology Today. Accessed March 26, 2018. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201609/why-secrets-can-ruin-relationships

Stephanie Both, Mark Spiering, Walter Everaerd, and Ellen Laan. “Sexual Behavior and Responsiveness to Sexual Stimuli following Laboratory‐induced Sexual Arousal.” The Journal of Sex Research 41, no. 3 (08 2004): 242–58. doi:10.1080/00224490409552232.

Taylor Kohut, William A. Fisher, and Lorne Campbell. “Perceived Effects of Pornography on the Couple Relationship: Initial Findings of Open-Ended, Participant-Informed, “Bottom-Up” Research.” Archives of Sexual Behavior 46, no. 2 (07, 2016): 585–602. doi:10.1007/s10508–016–0783–6.

Charles Negy, Diego Plaza, Abilio Reig-Ferrer, and Maria Dolores Fernandez-Pascual. “Is Viewing Sexually Explicit Material Cheating on Your Partner? A Comparison Between the United States and Spain.” Archives of Sexual Behavior 47, no. 3 (02, 2018): 737–45. doi:10.1007/s10508–017–1125-z.

 

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The MetArt 50+ Club: Sharon E

Leggy brunette Sharon E is a memorable beauty from the archives, and a much-admired member of the MetArt 50+ Club, girls so popular they have been featured at least fifty times during their modeling career. With a sultry pout and long, tanned limbs, Sharon’s natural magnetism makes her one of our all-time superstars, and well worth checking out if you’re not aware of her impressive body of work – or her impressive body!

SHARON E: athletic stunner (74 appearances)

Ukrainian babe Sharon made her debut at the age of 19 on July 22, 2002, in a two girl series with Andrea C, photographed by Voronin. Her first solo appearance, "Provocation," came on March 5, 2003, and in total she was featured 74 times, in 55 photosets and 19 movies, with her final appearance coming in a movie titled “Reach Out” directed by Leonardo on February 26, 2012. Although back in the day photosets were often divided up into smaller segments, this is still a notable achievement, spanning a ten-year career. A large number of her photosets and several videos are girl-girl or three-girl, pairing her with other top models of the era including Andrea C and Liza B. Sharon worked with four different artists: Voronin 56, Leonardo 9, Rigin 8 and Pasha 1. Many of her classic appearances were very popular, with a movie titled “Aurora” by Voronin being her highest rated at 9.5.

Long since retired, Sharon has a modest personal rating of 8.3 at the time of writing, based on 5,829 votes, with 130,149 views, and is followed by 2,368 members. But the role she played in helping to establish the MetArt ideal – gorgeous, uninhibited girls taking pleasure in sharing their natural beauty – should not be underestimated.

Tall, tanned and statuesque, Sharon was the epitome of the outdoor girl, as comfortable rolling around in a cornfield as on silk sheets. Her sexy green eyes and seductive demeanour hinted at an untamed sensuality, and her small, firm breasts, perfect ass and pretty pussy – sometimes shaved, sometimes sporting a beautifully sculpted bush – all added up to an elegant, exotic package.

In her biography, Sharon revealed that she enjoyed dance, travel and the creative arts. Wherever she is in the world now, we thank her for sharing her sizzling sexual allure with us, and wish her well.

Thanks to our resident statistician and historian, Frank, for his assistance.

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Stunning MetArt star Jia Lissa up close and personal

Flaming hair, flawless porcelain skin, cute freckles, dazzling green eyes – everything about MetArt’s sensational rising star Jia Lissa screams natural redhead, right down to her fiery bush. She’s rapidly become a favorite throughout the MetArt Network, from her kinky bondage movies on The Life Erotic to passionate lesbian encounters on SexArt and Viv Thomas, and solo masturbation on MetArt X. But here at MetArt we get to explore her sensual side, with eleven beautiful photosets to date.

At just 21 years of age, and with less than a year as an erotic model, Jia has already made a huge impression, with fans tagging her sets “10 plus,” “perfection” and “goddess” among many other epithets. Whether she’s pretty in pigtails, playing the country girl among the crops or simply entrancing us with her ethereal sweetness, Jia is simply irresistible.

“I’m from Moscow, Russia,” she revealed in a recent video interview for Viv Thomas. “It’s a cold, cold country, but I’m hot…” The wicked twinkle in her eyes at that moment tells you so much about her personality. She looks like butter wouldn’t melt in her mouth, but the truth is she’s a naughty, horny girl with a healthy appetite for sexual experimentation, both in front of the camera and behind…

“At home in bed, I like to have some control. I like to be on top because then I can take what I want. And when I’m alone I have handcuffs and ropes… I like to play with myself. I can tie myself up! I have many toys, I have my Hitachi and many different sized butt plugs. Oh, and I like spanking.”

Jia is our dream girl come to life in every way: “I like making fantasies come true. I like to try different things with my partner, to experiment. One day I like it to be soft, and the next day I like it to be a bit crazy and wild. It’s like if you eat cake every day, you want chocolate cake one day, another day strawberry. I like role play, I like teasing a lot, I love kissing – who doesn’t love it?”

And she’s not just beautiful and sexy, but talented too: “I just finished musical college. I can play not just with my pussy but with other instruments too! But if you ask me to play my guitar, I’d rather play with my pussy for you and I’m sure you’d rather watch that, than my guitar skills! I just started nude modeling a few months ago and I love it so much. A friend told me that they knew a photographer who would be interested in shooting me. So I thought, okay, why not try it? After my first shoot I thought they would never call me back – but here I am.”

We hope this ravishing redhead with the angelic looks and the devilish nature will be gracing us with her sexual presence for a long time to come!

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The MetArt 50+ Club: Night A

Petite beauty Night A is the most recent model to be inducted into the MetArt 50+ Club, girls so popular they have been featured at least 50 times during their modeling career. The green-eyed Russian cutie may only be 5’1” but she sure packs a punch when it comes to popularity and desirability.

NIGHT A: petite cutie (50 appearances)

Gorgeous Night made her MetArt debut at the age of 20 on 16 November 2010, in a “Presenting” photoset by Rylsky. To date she has appeared in 47 photosets and three videos, all of them solo. She has worked with three different artists: Rylsky 36, Arkisi 11 and Ingret 3. Her debut appearance is still her most highly rated, with a score of 9.3.

Night’s ranking at the time of writing is #56, very impressive for a model who has been appearing for over seven years and has been active on and off during that time. Her personal rating is 9.3 based on 4,794 votes, with 241,207 views and 5,183 members following her. She has also appeared on other MetArt Network sites including SexArt, MetArt X, The Life Erotic, Rylsky Art, Erotic Beauty, Errotica Archives, and Eternal Desire.

Night is very cute, with huge green eyes, perfect-handful breasts, lovely long legs and a sensational ass. She also looks like a lot of fun, changing her hair color from black to brown to vivid red and all shades between, sometimes sporting a natural bush, sometimes shaving completely and sometimes styling her pubic hair in fancy shapes. She can look sultry or playful, and the candid shots of her that open many of Rylsky’s photosets are adorable. In her bio she describes herself as cheerful, inquisitive, sensual and a lover of variety. To this, MetArt members would add exquisite, enchanting and drop dead gorgeous!

If you want to know how to please this sexy sweetheart, here’s her bio from Errotica Archives: “I adore being licked. Although I also love penetration and hard stuff, I am more sensitive to clit stimulation. My best orgasms come when being licked. My favorite succession is gentle touching and kissing for a start, then licking and fingering, or a 69, which usually make me want to be screwed from behind, and I love to make the man come then to be finished by licking. These are my best orgasms.”

Thanks to our resident statistician and historian, Frank, for his assistance.

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