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About the author: Allison Leigh is a pornographer, producer, polyamorist, and professional kinkster. When sexuality is business, business is fun! 

When I was in my punk phase, I acquired a pin that proudly proclaimed, YEAH, I MASTURBATE. I thought it was hilarious, but I don’t believe I truly appreciated how political the statement was. Despite a thousand euphemisms, masturbation is something rarely discussed and almost never referred to by name. But what if our aversion to calling it what it is  – self pleasure – is holding us back from really enjoying it?

Handed to us via thousands of years of religious and societal reinforcement, the reason we giggle or shift uncomfortably in our seats at any reference to masturbation is that annoying social shaper, shame. Unlike its sister emotion, guilt, which informs the brain that “what I have done is bad,” shame lacks that key distinction and tells us “I am bad.” Presumably, the function of shame is to encourage us to improve our behavior in future. While shame can have healthy applications, such as making us strive to do better by our peers, feeling like you’re dirty or disgusting is a major mood killer.

Shame has been linked to addiction, perfectionism, depression and low self-esteem – and none of those are drives we want anywhere near our sexuality, save for certain consensual fetish activities. Being ashamed can impel us to attack ourselves, or to externalize our emotions by attacking other people, which causes the cycle to continue. When a comedian mentions masturbation and everyone giggles nervously or sinks into their seats, it’s not because the joke is inherently funny – it’s because we’ve been taught that this activity is shameful. Both the joke and the response are part of a circle of conditioning, passing the shame from person to person. Everyone goes home having the shame of touching themselves reinforced, and no one feels very sexy about it.

So how do we combat the social stigma that causes us to feel so much shame about self-pleasure? After all, we’ve already proven countless times that masturbation is healthy, normal, and even good for you – it certainly seems that we should be over this hang-up by now. We’re conscious that having a good wank is nothing to be ashamed of. Now, if only we could fight the blush rising in our cheeks at the very thought of it…

I heartily recommend freeing yourself from the inherited shame of masturbation, and start calling your “alone time” what it is. In the process, you will start relieving others of that shame as well. Obviously you don’t want to force the topic onto others without their consent, but talking about your feelings and being frank about fingering (or your own preferred method) is the best hope for society to heal our collective discomfort surrounding masturbation. If we can stop passing our shame to others, we can actively create a positive culture and work toward wholeheartedly embracing healthy sexuality.

This post first appeared on MyErotica.com

 

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Ashby, J. S., Rice, K. G., & Martin, J. L. (2006, 04). Perfectionism, Shame, and Depressive Symptoms. Journal of Counseling & Development, 84(2), 148–156. doi:10.1002/j.1556–6678.2006.tb00390.x

Capretto, L. (2013, April 18). WATCH: What To Tell Yourself When You Screw Up. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/18/brene-brown-shame-guilt-addiction-oprah_n_2966351.html

Crew, B. (2018, January 25). Is Masturbation Good For You? Science Weighs In. https://www.sciencealert.com/is-masturbation-good-for-you-science-answer

Gregoire, C. (2016, March 03). The Unexpected Reason It’s Healthy To Feel Shame. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/shame-psychology-evolution_us_56d4428ce4b0871f60ebf5c9

Gruenewald, T. L., Kemeny, M. E., Aziz, N., & Fahey, J. L. (2004, 11). Acute Threat to the Social Self: Shame, Social Self-esteem, and Cortisol Activity. Psychosomatic Medicine, 66(6), 915–924. doi:10.1097/01.psy.0000143639.61693.ef

Sack, D. (2015, January 13). 5 Ways to Silence Shame. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/where-science-meets-the-steps/201501/5-ways-silence-shame

Wehrenberg, M. (2015, July 7). Shame and Depression. https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/depression-management-techniques/201507/shame-and-depression

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Up close and personal with sexy MetArt model Cherry Kiss

Stunning Serbian beauty Cherry Kiss seduces with her smile; long before her clothes come off, the sexy blonde 25-year-old will have you captivated. A huge star on our sister sites SexArt and Viv Thomas, where her uninhibited sexual energy is so infectious that her lucky costars always seem to be more than a little in love with her, Cherry deservedly takes center stage here at MetArt, with four photosets by Erro to date.

Starting out as a make-up artist – and “a very shy girl” – we’re lucky that Cherry decided to appear in front of the camera instead. Creating nude photosets and erotic movies is a perfect fit for someone with such natural charisma, as she revealed in a recent video interview with director Alis Locanta: “What I enjoy the most about making movies is the energy, and all the complex-free people – which is something you will find a lot of in this business, because we are free. The energy is always good, it’s fun, and when work is fun it’s perfect.”

Sexual freedom is important to her: “I’ve had a girl in my private life, as part of an orgy! The most unusual place I’ve had sex was when I lost my virginity, in a cemetery, because I was hiding from my father. I was staying at my grandma’s house and that was the only place where there was no light.”

She does have a romantic side, though: “The physical side means absolutely nothing to me. All my past boyfriends were different looking, what I fall in love with is their mind and what’s in their heart. I can be romantic, when I really love somebody. But usually I am not – it’s boring! Believe it or not, my favorite sex position is missionary. I like to do crazy stuff, but the simpler it is, the more it gives me pleasure.”

There’s no denying her body is incredible, but Cherry doesn’t spend much time touching it herself: “The truth is, I don’t like to masturbate because there’s always somebody that can do it for me!”

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The MetArt 50+ Club: Anna AJ

Stunning brunette Anna AJ is the epitome of the classically elegant model, one of the superstars of our archive and a gorgeous member of the MetArt 50+ Club, girls so popular they have been featured at least fifty times during their modeling career. The tall, sultry beauty has an imposing presence that makes her unforgettable.

ANNA AJ: elegant beauty (82 appearances)

Ukrainian babe Anna made her MetArt debut at the age of 20 on May 16, 2008, in a “Presenting” photoset by Voronin, and her final appearance on December 4, 2015, in “Talivy” by Leonardo. She worked with only these two artists – 10 times with Voronin, 72 with Leonardo – and was featured a total of 82 times, six of them movies. Five of her photosets are girl-girl, with Liza B, Sharon E and Alena I. Many of her appearances are very highly rated by members, with an unprecedented 13 photosets achieving an impressive 9.4 score.

Despite being so long retired, Anna is highly regarded, with a rating of 9 based on 13,131 votes at the time of writing. She has been viewed 865,383 times and is followed by 9,878 members. She has appeared on only one other site in the Network, Errotica Archives.

So what is it about Anna that made her so overwhelmingly popular?

Let’s start with that beautiful, sultry face – this is no cute girl-next-door, but an unattainable goddess, with fashion-model looks. She has a dancer’s grace and poise, with long legs, perfect-handful breasts and an incredible ass. Her expressions convey a self-assured sensuality and a powerful sexual presence. No wonder members described her as “all time favorite,” “best of the best” and “breathtaking beauty,” among many other words of praise and devotion. We’re proud to have such a star in our archive, and wish her all the best.

Thanks to our resident statistician and historian, Frank, for his assistance.

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We All Love Porn

About the author: Allison Leigh is a pornographer, producer, polyamorist, and professional kinkster. When sexuality is business, business is fun! 

The data is in – basically, everyone enjoys porn.

We do it in private, behind closed bathroom and bedroom doors, or maybe with a trusted partner; the use of pornography is as widespread as the stigma against it. From romance novels to raunchy pics and videos, the data adds up – basically, it seems that everyone enjoys erotic entertainment in some form or another. So how many of us are watching, who are we, and what are we searching for? 

Analytics suggest that consuming porn, particularly videos viewed over the internet, is a ubiquitous habit. The numbers are staggeringly large, but not surprising – according to statistics released by the internet’s largest porn provider, their site alone averaged 81 million visitors per day in 2017 (28.5 billion visitors for the year), with 24.7 billion searches performed. That translates to roughly 800 searches per second, a statistic which their report helpfully relates to the number of hamburgers per second sold by fast food giant McDonald’s. In total, 595,482 hours of video were uploaded to their site, which is 68 years of porn if watched continuously. That’s only one website, for one year – it’s safe to extrapolate that usage is far higher when considering other sources and forms of erotica that are more difficult to find data on.

When sorted by visits to the same website, the United States tops the ranks of porn use, followed by the United Kingdom, India, Japan, and Canada. Visits soared in some places – particularly Ethiopia, which rose 68 places in the ranking in the course of the year. Unsurprisingly, people seem to watch porn mostly at night, with the highest traffic consistently between 11pm and 1am. 

Possibly more surprising is the shrinking gender gap reported in a 10 year meta analysis which found that men had only slightly higher usage numbers than women. According to a report by ATTN, in 2014, 79 percent of 18 to 30-year-old American men watched internet porn at least once per month, barely exceeding 76 percent of 18 to 30-year-old American women. That number is on the rise, too – every top 20 country except Russia saw an increase in female visits versus 2016, and searches for “porn for women” increased over 1400 percent. 

Erotic expression is clearly something many of us enjoy, then; but what we choose to partake in encompasses a wide variety. “Lesbian” has long been – and continues to be – the most sought after genre, followed by “hentai” (anime porn), “milf,” “stepmom,” “stepsister,” and “mom.” The search terms that trended were even more interesting – terms like “Rick and Morty” and “Fidget Spinners” suggest novelty is the key to excitement for jaded consumers. Here at MetArt we hope our commitment to producing classy erotica with naturally beautiful girls will keep us high on your ‘favorites’ list!

The numbers don’t lie; almost everyone is enjoying some form of pornography. We’re sexual creatures by nature, and erotica is a natural extension and expression of that sexuality. Studies have shown that the enjoyment of erotica increases both arousability and romantic harmony. 

Despite current anti-porn sentiment in certain political circles, conscious and responsible porn use is a healthy habit that is past due to be accepted as part of our everyday sex lives. 

This post first appeared on MyErotica.com

 

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Bahadur, Nina. "Women Are Way More Into Porn Than Many Think, Suggests Survey." The Huffington Post. November 18, 2013. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/18/women-and-porn-survey-ann-summers-sex_n_4297183.html

Both, Stephanie, Spiering, Mark, Everaerd, Walter, and Laan, Ellen. "Sexual behavior and responsiveness to sexual stimuli following laboratory‐induced sexual arousal." The Journal of Sex Research41, no. 3 (2004): 242-58. doi:10.1080/00224490409552232

Crandall, Diana. "Here's Who Is Actually Watching Porn." ATTN: December 11, 2015. https://www.attn.com/stories/4626/internet-porn-demographics

Petersen, J. L., and Shibley, J.S. "A meta-analytic review of research on gender differences in sexuality, 1993–2007." PsycNET. Accessed February 23, 2018. http://psycnet.apa.org/record/2009-24669-006

Leigh, Allison. "The Key to Desire." MetArt Blog. Accessed February 23, 2018. https://www.metart.com/blog/20180216/The_key_to_desire__how_to_unlock_this_life_enhancing_drive/

Silver, Curtis. "Pornhub 2017 Year In Review Insights Report Reveals Statistical Proof We Love Porn." Forbes. January 09, 2018. https://www.forbes.com/sites/curtissilver/2018/01/09/pornhub-2017-year-in-review-insights-report-reveals-statistical-proof-we-love-porn/#1897f61424f5

"2017 Year in Review." Pornhub Insights. January 19, 2018. https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2017-year-in-review

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