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The Importance of Kinky Sex

About the author: Allison Leigh is a pornographer, producer, polyamorist, and professional kinkster. When sexuality is business, business is fun! 

Voyeurism. Bondage. Cuckolding. Feet. Almost everyone has some kind of kink in their sexual wiring. But where do these predilections come from? And how important are they in the grand schematic of our relationships and sex lives? What happens when you ignore your kinks?

While we can’t place a finger on exactly what creates a fetish or kink, evidence points to these feelings stemming from moments in our formative youth that “crystallize” as part of our identities. This means that we’re likely forming our ideas about sex long before sex itself ever comes into play in our lives.

According to a 2016 survey of over 2000 people in the UK, roughly 75 percent of people have a kinky interest. The importance we place on our kinks varies, of course, depending on how much of a role sex plays in our lives. Some kinks may be a soft interest, easy to brush off. Others, however, can become inextricably linked with our sex drive – sometimes so intensely that they become fetishes that our sex life feels incomplete without. Of course, one can have too much of a good thing; but medical science doesn’t consider paraphilia a problem to be dealt with unless these predilections harm others, or are so strong that they are detrimental to a person’s day-to-day life.

Although sometimes these “unusual” drives can become fixations, for most people sexual fulfilment is important to our relationships and our mental wellbeing. Sexual satisfaction has been repeatedly found to greatly impact people’s quality of life. Though it is unclear if the relationship is causative or corollary (or a combination of the two), people who report high sexual satisfaction also report higher satisfaction in their romantic relationships. What better reason is there to get busy?

Our sex drive is a physiological function that co-evolved to meet our psychological needs for security, self-esteem, and connection, and our kinks are a part of that drive. While sex isn’t a need in and of itself (no one dies from lack of sex, no matter what your high school boyfriend tried to tell you) it leads us to feel connected and secure with our partners, increases oxytocin and serotonin levels and decreases testosterone and prefrontal cortex activity. Moreover, people in consensual BDSM relationships were found to have lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol and also reported greater feelings of relationship closeness and intimacy after their sexual play. In short, having a sex life that we’re happy with makes us happy – and happy people live longer, healthier lives.

The fulfilment of your sex drive is intimately linked to your psychological wellbeing, which is fundamentally linked to your physical wellbeing. This means that, if you look at it the right way, fulfilling your kinks is just as important to your mental health as say, hugging your family or petting your dog. Take time to share your interests with your partner, watch an erotic video, or read a sexy story. Of course no one is obligated to share your kinks with you, but exploring them – on your own or with a partner – is a task essential to your quality of life.

This post first appeared on MyErotica.com

 

REFERENCES:

Aaron, M. (2018, May 30). Growing Up Kinky: Research Shows How Kink Identity Is Formed. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201805/growing-kinky-research-shows-how-kink-identity-is-formed

Borresen, K. (2018, July 26). The Difference Between A Fetish And Kink, According To Sex Experts. https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/difference-between-fetish-and-kink_us_5b58a59ae4b0b15aba94749b

Emery, L. R. (2018, April 25). This Is The Most Popular Fetish In The UK. https://www.bustle.com/articles/190171-how-many-people-have-a-sexual-fetish-its-more-common-than-you-think-but-its-still

Flynn, K. E., Lin, L., Bruner, D. W., Cyranowski, J. M., Hahn, E. A., Jeffery, D. D., Reese, J.B., Reeve, B.B., Shelby, R.A., Weinfurt, K. P. (2016, November). Sexual Satisfaction and the Importance of Sexual Health to Quality of Life Throughout the Life Course of US Adults. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5075511/

Gray, E. (2017, December 07). Is This Type Of Sex Pathological? https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/03/sexual-fetishes-dsm-v_n_3008421.html

Manson, M. (2018, July 08). Sex and Our Psychological Needs. https://markmanson.net/sex-and-our-psychological-needs

Oaklander, M. (2016, February 11). Do Happy People Really Live Longer? http://time.com/4217052/do-happy-people-really-live-longer/

Sagarin, B. J., Cutler, B., Cutler, N., Lawler-Sagarin, K. A., Matuszewich, L. (2009, April). Hormonal changes and couple bonding in consensual sadomasochistic activity. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18563549

Shpancer, N. (2014, February 16). Sexual Satisfaction: Highly Valued, Poorly Understood. (n.d.). https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/201402/sexual-satisfaction-highly-valued-poorly-understood

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MetArt wins Nude Photography Site of the Year!

We’re thrilled to announce that MetArt has won Nude Photography Site of the Year at the 2019 XBIZ Awards. This prestigious accolade from the premier home of adult industry news is a great honor, and the recognition of our efforts means a lot to us.

We’re proud of our reputation as the world’s leading showcase for high-class erotic nudes and you can be sure we’ll do everything in our power to live up to the title in 2019, bringing you all the top models and fresh new beauties of your dreams. Thanks for joining us on this wild ride!

 

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Sexual Politics

About the author: Allison Leigh is a pornographer, producer, polyamorist, and professional kinkster. When sexuality is business, business is fun! 

From how we do it to whom we do it with, sex is personal – but is it linked to our politics?

The stereotypes about our political personalities are ubiquitous, especially in the United States. From the promiscuous, birth control using Democrat who supports Planned Parenthood, to the truck balls owning, toxically masculine Republican affirming his “alpha” position by ridiculing his perceived enemies as “cucks,” our views on politics are often linked (in appearance, if not in actuality) to our views on sex. But what kind of sex are Republicans and Democrats actually having? Do our preconceived notions of the parties line up with what’s really happening in their fantasies?

I was surprised to see this discussion on a recent episode of The Late Show with Stephen Colbert, a longstanding comedy-news talk show. Though the findings were reduced to a quick punchline, the study Colbert referenced was real. Published in a book entitled “Tell Me What You Want,” Dr. Justin Lehmiller surveyed 4,175 adult Americans from all 50 states, collecting data on a variety of different situations, people, political figures and other potential turn-ons. The analysis shines an interesting light on the American sexual psyche.

Republicans, for instance, were more likely to fantasize about activities that involve sex outside of marriage like infidelity, orgies and partner swapping, including 1970s-style “key parties” and modern-day forms of swinging. Republicans also reported more fantasies with voyeuristic themes, including visiting strip clubs and practicing something known as “cuckolding” which involves watching one’s partner have sex with someone else, specifically someone who is better in bed than you are. This is the origin of the term “cuck,” which has become a popular pejorative in modern Republican and “Proud Boy” online communities.

Democrats, on the other hand, were more likely to fantasize about sexual activities that involved power dynamics, such as BDSM. In fact, the largest bedroom disparity between Republicans and Democrats was their interest in masochism – enjoying pleasure through the experience of pain. Spanking, bondage, and dominant/submissive roleplay were far more likely to titillate Democrats than Republicans.

Dr. Lehmiller’s theory about these differences between the parties boils down to a mainline through the human psyche regardless of politics – the appeal of taboo. It’s easy to see where these marked disparities may come from when viewed through this frame. Republicans are guided by a party platform that touts the “sanctity of traditional marriage,” which would make any sort of non-monogamous exploration verboten. Meanwhile, Democrats may be drawn to power exchange because their party so staunchly stands for equality. Dr Lehmiller writes, “The appeal of the taboo stems from a long-standing principle of psychology known as reactance – which stipulates that when our freedom is threatened and we’re told we can’t do something, we want to do it even more. Many a parent has discovered this principle and used it to their benefit in shaping behavior through reverse psychology: Frame the desired act as something your [offspring] isn’t allowed to do and you just might get what you want.”

There were many similarities between the fantasy lives of those surveyed, as well. Markedly crossing party lines was the inclination toward trying new things, whether they be new partners or new experiences. Additionally, almost everyone surveyed reported that they enjoyed situations and scenarios where they felt validated and competent, indicating that we seek to fulfil our emotional desires even in our fantasies. Behind all of our political slogans and kinky fantasies, it would seem that humans are still striving to meet the same set of psychological needs.

While one cannot jump to conclusions about our sexual proclivities based on survey alone, it’s important to note this data and frame it within the greater spectrum of knowledge. Our sexuality is of course not solely the product of our politics – but this research shows that the two appear to be linked. It stands to reason that the frame with which we view the world would also be the frame with which we view ourselves – and our sexuality.

This post first appeared on MyErotica.com

REFERENCES:

Brehm, J.W. (1966). A theory of psychological reactance. http://psycnet.apa.org/record/1967-08061-000

Lehmiller, J. (2018, August 28). Tell Me What You Want. https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/justin-j-lehmiller/tell-me-what-you-want/9780738234953/

Lehmiller, J., Scher, B., Greenfield, J., and Alberta, T. (2018, October 27). Republicans and Democrats Don’t Just Disagree About Politics. They Have Different Sexual Fantasies. https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2018/10/27/sexual-fantasies-republicans-democrats-politics-221919

Schwartz, D. (2016, August 01). Why Angry White Men Love Calling People “Cucks”. https://www.gq.com/story/why-angry-white-men-love-calling-people-cucks

The Late Show with Stephen Colbert. (2018, November 03). Republicans And Democrats Have Different Sexy Thoughts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3neoZaTEUeM

Urban Dictionary (n.d.). Truck balls. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=truck%20balls

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The MetArt 50+ Club: Liza B

Stunning green-eyed blonde Liza B is one of the classic stars of our archive, and a much-admired member of our MetArt 50+ Club, girls who’ve been featured at least fifty times during their modeling career. The leggy beauty is the archetypal erotic star, with a sensational body and sizzling sex appeal.

LIZA B: seductive blonde (95 appearances)

Ukrainian babe Liza made her MetArt debut at the age of 19, on February 8, 2005, in a “Presenting” photoset by Voronin. She appeared 95 times, in five movies and 90 photosets, and worked with only two artists: 51 times with Voronin and 44 with Leonardo. Her final appearance was on November 25, 2014, in “Oyet” by Leonardo. Her highest rated appearance is Voronin’s movie “Lizamania,” rated an impressive 9.4.

A whopping 33 photosets and one movie are girl-girl appearances (with other top models of the time such as Anna AJ and Jenya D); and one is a three-girl special, “Trittico,” with Jenya and Sharon E.

At the time of writing, Liza is rated 8.67, based on 8,476 ratings, with 313,592 views and 5,270 members following her. Evidently she has slipped down the ratings having been inactive for several years, and these numbers don’t really convey the impact made by this athletic goddess. Epithets from members include ‘perfect 10’, ‘all time favorite’, ‘best of the best’, ‘dream girl’, ‘flawless beauty’ and many more such superlatives.

So, what made Liza a top model? Well, that incredible body, for starters. Tall and sporty, with long legs and sculpted abs, firm breasts and a perfect ass, the statuesque starlet was bound to turn heads. Members also enjoyed her sexy butterfly-lipped pussy, sometimes shaved, sometimes with a neatly trimmed bush. And of course there’s that gorgeous face, with the sassy smile that suggests Liza knows exactly what you’re thinking when you look at her…

In her bio, Liza said: “I like to go to big parties and to dance, I love the sea and to travel. My dream is to open a hotel in Bora Bora, in French Polynesia.” We like to picture her living out that dream, preferably naked!

 

Thanks to our resident statistician and historian, Frank, for his assistance.

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Home Office Distraction

Erotic fiction inspired by Gracie in “Warm Fantasy

I don’t trust people who work at home. I presume they are drinking, watching TV, jerking off, or some combination of the three.

When I work at home, I’m so productive. Each call is answered within 30 seconds. Every email gets a response.

Today, Gracie has other ideas.

When the sun comes in at the right angle, the curtains in my home office become a wall of light. The outline of her soft skin emerges in a blinding flash. She’s lying back on the desk. Her splendid body shines.

She is naked except for a vintage crochet shirt. Her perky breasts push her fat nipples through wide stitches of white cotton.

Gracie sits up and her hair dangles alongside earrings shaped like keys made for peepholes. She knows when I might try to resist a good daydream, so she’s pulled her hair back into pigtails. Works every time.  

Slowly, she peels the shirt down her body until it bunches up over her tummy. She rolls over and props her perfect ass up in the air. She pulls her shirt over her hips and all the way down her legs.

Her nakedness makes her laugh. She hides her eyes behind her elbow and I know she’s feeling vulnerable. But with each stroke of my keyboard, the innocence in her eyes fade away. I am warmed by the light bouncing off her.

Her hands touch her shoulders. She drags her fingers up her thighs and rubs around her belly button. How does she resist pushing her fingers through her trim bush into the burning place?

I could do it for her. No one will miss me. Not for 15 minutes.

I roll my chair closer and she opens her legs for me. My window’s closing so I go right for her clit, massaging it with the tip of my tongue.

I can feel her fingernails raking the back of my head. She pulls me closer, smothering me in her swollen pussy lips. She clamps her legs over my ears tight so I can’t hear her cumming. But I feel the vibrations ripple through her silky skin.

Her tasty pussy dissolves in my mouth. And just as quickly as she arrived, she disappears with the fading light.

 

About the author: The Junkman is a contributing writer for the MetArt Network, blending his twin passions for erotic storytelling and high-class porn. He shares a range of musings at JunkPixels.com

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